So many people enter couple’s counseling because something in their marriage or relationship is not working and they are unhappy, disconnected or thinking about breaking up. One of the common things I see when working with couples in counseling is that one or both of the partners often did not grow up in a home where they had modeling for managing emotions in a healthy way. Many people grow up in home with what Dr. Jonice Webb describes in her book as “Childhood Emotional Neglect” which is also the title of her first book. . This means that you or your partner may have grown up in a home where emotions and feelings were not attended to for various reasons. As a result, you may have learned unhealthy ways of dealing with emotions . This can have a huge impact on a relationship if a couple does not have the same rules of engagement for how to manage their own feelings and how to respond to their partners feelings and manage conflict effectively. Here is a great article with some things couples do that grew up with childhood emotional neglect. As a couple’s therapist, I teach you how to manage your feelings and relationship in a healthy way so you can communicate effectively, experience more connection, love, trust and fun between you and your significant other.
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One of the most common remarks I hear from couples in marital counseling is, "I love him/her, I am just don't think I am in love any more ". People some times think that these feelings are a reason...